You may or may not have heard the term, “slut shaming”. Slut shaming is the act of criticizing a woman for her real or presumed sexual activity, or for behaving in ways that one thinks are associated with her real life or presumed sexual activity.
To me, slut shaming is a modern day version of sexism. One of my biggest issues with slut shaming is that it is completely directed towards women and a huge double standard. My earliest memory of being slut shamed was in high school walking into the classroom to take a seat and a few of the guys in the class would do the blow job hand movement to their mouths until I sat down. At this age and time, I hadn’t had the experience yet of even giving a blow job yet. I was still a virgin. The assumption was that I was a slut because I wore tight jeans and miniskirts.
Now as an adult and especially being in the adult industry, I deal with slut shaming on different levels. My tolerance is higher obviously because the career I have chosen. Yet, I wonder a lot of times where people lost their manners or why they were never taught manners in the first place. That is what I believe has been lost. Some people are so quick to just say exactly what they are thinking without maybe thinking what that person might feel inside when hearing it. My family does motocross and I have had some experiences when I would walk by a certain group of guys, they would say, “Anyone know where the closet strip club is?” Just poking fun at the fact that I’m in porn. There is a time and place to talk dirty in bed or during my live cam shows. Even in my chat rooms during my live cam shows, my members are usually extremely respectful and we can be open sexually without being abusive or rude.
The reality of slut shaming is that many women and young girls are even being slut shamed when they are the victims in rape cases and assaults. If in some way, if they hadn’t dressed a certain way or acted a certain way then the crime might not of happened. The truth is whether you have a lot of sex, never have, wear tight clothing or loose clothing, you do not deserve this. My hopes are that when people feel the urge to shame a woman that they will think twice and make the right choice to have respect for her mind and body.
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I for one am sorry that I didn’t go to high school when you did because if I did then I would have tried very hard to show you not all guys are asses like them.But it is good to see that their hate didn’t change who you are and I’m thankful for that 🙂
Hi Catalina,
I’m so incredibly sorry that you have to deal with many of the pitfalls that fall with being associated with such an often misunderstood profession. I think it takes immense courage and determination as a woman to do what you do. As the great artist Joni Mitchell once said, “People will tell you where to go, and what to do, but until they’ve been their themselves, they never really know”! I think you are an incredibly humble and gracious person, and I would have no problems with what you do for a living, if I were with you!
Did you happen to get my e-mail I sent you? I know you are incredibly busy, but was wondering if the chance of this?
By the way, could you do more photos with the dark hair and no bangs? Your hair in your first blowbang was absolutely gorgeous!!!
I Never heard that term before ,shaming is a word and action ,i don’t do to any one ,no matter gender ,because i try and treat everyone as i would like to be treated ,i think being respectful and saying things at the right time is a quality ,they call common sense ,too bad it’s really not that common to some people. the shame is on them